To build a society focused on the common good would prioritize childcare as fundamental to our societies to cultivate prosocial minds. It is truly a tragedy that so many children grow up, trapped in homes with frightened, frightening and disengaged parents that will profoundly affect the maturation of their brains. COVID lock downs have made this much worse, the consequences of which will not be known for some years and probably never fully will. Essentially then, social mentalities have co-evolved such that individuals can be receptive to the signals indicating a person’s motivation intent and then respond appropriately.
In addition, the ego-preserving bias may be exacerbated when certain overlapping regions between the Relation-Modeling and Reality-Checking components are functionally impaired. These regions include the parietal lobe, hippocampus and adjacent hippocampal cortex, and retrosplenial cortex, which are all closely related to spatial frame processing and regulation. These overlapping regions are known to mediate the regulation of egocentric-allocentric frames in a mental space, which is key to interpersonal understanding and resilience to adversity (Frith and de Vignemont, 2005; Gilbertson et al., 2007; Langston and Wood, 2010; Ekstrom et al., 2014). As evidenced in animal models (Hammels et al., 2015), hippocampus and related regions are crucial regions mediating the bifurcation of post-trauma stress disorders and resilience.
This flash of vulnerability made me connect with his loss and empathise with his sadness and anger. I apologised after a long pause, offered my condolences and he suggested that I try a different computer with a better connection. It allows us to bridge the gaps in our differences, especially those which we create in our minds that allow conflict to continue.
- We point to the following ingenious animal study as a model to illustrate the three types of suffering.
- One of the most transformative approaches to conflict is leading with compassion.
- By cultivating empathy, even in small ways, we free ourselves from the burden of carrying hatred.
It is not a battle between good and evil, it is a battle between two resource distribution strategies that are millions of years old. As we come to understand how we are programmed (against our awareness) and how our minds are emotionally and motivationally orchestrated by these strategies, we may decide enough is enough. We have a degree of intelligence and mindfulness and can decide to take control of the steering wheel. Compassion turns out to be the most courageous and wise of all of our motives. Against the political movements of the last few decades, the tragedies of COVID-19 have illuminated many ways in which humans can be extraordinarily compassionate.
Sara Bensman is a mediator and consultant specializing in conflict resolution. She supports individuals, couples and groups moving through conflict or separation with dignity and grace. Her reflections on divorce, co-parenting and effective communication can be found at sarabensman.com/blog.
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I’d already begun to formulate my own perceptions of his response; he was rude, he was a male chauvinist and worst of all, he was an idiot! I realised how ridiculous my reaction had been when he told me that he really didn’t need this right now because his father had only recently passed away. My four-year-old niece stamped her feet and whaled in agony when my brother told her she was too ill to go to the fun fair that evening. There was no point in explaining intellectually to a child about viruses and how they heal by resting. My niece, in her own innocent view of the world, was feeling the sad disappointment that we all feel when a promise is broken, no matter what the good intention behind that was.
Note too, that poverty prevents talent from coming forward and competing for social share. The wealthy can pay for education and advantageous social networks (Murray and Frijters, 2017) in ways the poor cannot (Galbraith, 1993). The strategy of control and hold requires individuals to believe in it, thereby support the importance of competitiveness, hierarchy, inequality and self-determination and attend to and defend against threats to it. If the strategy cannot create minds that are patterned that way, then it would gradually be reduced or be suppressed as a meme in the population.
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Compassion has to be powered in part by moral values and understanding its value, not just our innate reactions. It also has to be socially valued and socially reinforced through cultural norms and expectations. Just as we can have a sense of biological kinship, so we can have a sense of psychological kinship. Importantly, as some spiritual traditions encourage, we can train our brains to conceptualize humanity as part of our “kin group” (Bailey, 2002).
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Stalin was an obvious recent example who did this on a huge scale, but tragically there are many states in the world today where theorg.com/org/lovesmoments leaders use terror tactics to control the population and quell opposition. The freedom to control and hold can create problems, but the freedom of free speech is essential to promote a compassionate world. Once again compassion has to address the dark side of humanity and recognise how closely it stalks us. Caring can be used for many non-sentient objects and beings, whereas compassion cannot.
The arms industry will blindly strip vast resources to fuel research and the manufacture of new weapons and artificial intelligent robot soldiers likely to be sold to narcissistic leaders to suppress their own population. Narcissistic leaders with bombs in their pockets, are not focused on peaceful forms of coexistence, but the need to build ever great defenses and present themselves as protectors. Groups will continually fracture into subgroups, possibly populist ideals of self and group importance and entitlements or around religions that offer protection and a source of specialness and well defined group identity.